So your head is too small to wear hats, it looks silly —you look silly. Wait one minute —who are you to tell me what looks good on me?! You’re me & I want to wear a hat! Alright, alright enough talking to myself. This little voice is in my head ALL the time, whether I want to admit it or not. Now that I acknowledge its existence, I will choose to ignore it. This was me on a random day at target btw. True story.
I had convinced myself for a long time that I would never look good in hats, and I accepted this as the rule of thumb. So back to being in target— I decided maybe it’s all in my head. Maybe I DO look good in hats. I made an executive decision to try this nice, beautiful, flowy hat on. To my surprise, OMG it looks OK! Actually, it looks great on me! I couldn’t believe it. All this time spent not wearing hats because my inner critic told me that I would look dumb. It also helped that the nice lady standing next to me was like “BUY it, looks great!” It felt undeniably good to hear it out loud from someone else. And maybe it wasn’t even that it looked great on me, maybe it was the confidence that I wore with it. Self love makes everyone look good.
Anything you wear, you should own it. Own that shit like a boss. Which reminds me—a few years ago, I did not know how to take a compliment. Legit someone would be like “your shoes are so cute!” I would reply with “yea I got them on sale” or “Oh yea I have had them a while.” What are you saying right now? LOL. Just say thank you… It’s like I was afraid to come off as too cocky or something. Problem was, instead of coming off cocky, I was coming off as an unconfident and overly polite human. Yes I know it makes zero sense. Am I the only one who thinks this way? The struggles of being a girl. I sometimes still have to make a conscious effort to say THANK YOU, rather than some other weird and awkward response.
Moral of the story, don’t let your inner critic control your life because of fear—fear of looking silly, fear of judgment, fear of whatever else you are afraid of. Fear is a nasty & paralyzing feeling. You run your life, not that nasty voice inside your head.