Single & 25

I think of everything in life as an experience -The good, the bad & the ugly. Even if things don’t work out the way you had hoped, you still learned something in the end. As I am recently single, it only makes sense to do a relative post. You might think I’d be a little down on myself, after all, single & 25 isn’t the most glamorous of titles. I actually feel hopeful. Its MY year. My year to learn everything I possibly can, do everything I’ve ever wanted to do, and just be myself. While I’m admittedly sad & disappointed that things didn’t work out—still nothing can stop me from achieving my dreams.

For the first time in my life, I realized that I didn’t like being alone. Why though? Ask yourself if you had one day to hang out with yourself, what would you do? Ask me that a year ago & you would undoubtedly get a deer in headlights stare. Ask me that now and you will see my face light up! Wake up, drink coffee, read a book, practice my guitar, go for a run, do some squats, etc. Goodbye to that girl who was afraid to be alone—time to enjoy being single & hanging out with my cat. LOL But seriously Instead of looking for the next partner, I’m working on me. I will not settle this time.

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Things to know about me— 1. I don’t owe anyone anything 2. I am more than capable of being happy alone 3. Dating can be super fun 4. My time is valuable to me and it will not be wasted 5. I will always stick up for myself 6. If you don’t like me, that’s ok— not everyone has good taste. hehe.

I’ve changed so much in the past year, it’s hard to know where to start. So I’ve zeroed in on the conclusion that the next one will find me when I least expect it. It’s how I know I’ve recently grown & changed. My outlook isn’t “I hate all guys.” It’s more like “The next one will be worthy of me and what I have to offer.” If I don’t feel like the most confident and unstoppable girl that I know I am —he’s going to be sidelined.

 

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It is crucial to take the good and not just the bad when exiting a relationship, even though they may not have been the ideal partner. We have all had a few less than ideal partners (eye roll). Everyone is different and has different experiences and personalities. That’s the beauty of life. Although we may not agree with everything our past partners stood for, we still have an opportunity to learn from them. I chose to take a great deal from my ex-boyfriend. I took an AMAZING amount of knowledge and wisdom. In a way, he inspired this blog. So the only words I would have to him are THANK YOU. Try it—thank your exes, even if they don’t deserve it.

There is no need for all of the hostility and drama involved with break ups. FORGIVE. Choose to forgive— not for them, but for yourself and your inner peace. Of course you don’t have to forget, for the past makes you wiser. Being sad is normal, you’re grieving the loss of a former BFF. Stay strong and move on. You rock.

-E

9 Comments

  1. You are so wise and insightful. Many people never get to this point in their lives. Life is about taking everything you can out of every experience, the good and bad, and learning and growing from that. Keep it up, the perfect man for you is out there. I found my prince charming and you will too!!

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  2. GIRL! Love this. When I was 22…I had this moment. I started working on me. I lost 40 pounds, spent all of my time walking trails and exploring, and just doing me. Low and behold…out of NOWHERE…this cute guy that I had known for a little while liked what he saw. He liked that I didn’t need to be around people to be happy. He liked that I had a newfound confidence. Long story short…I am now 26 and have been married to that guy for a year and a half. It works!!! ❤

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  3. I’ve been single for two years and am perfectly fine with it. I have time to do what I want and don’t have to answer to anyone. As I counsel others, you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. Another fact is that everyone we meet holds up a mirror to teach us more about ourselves. who does that better than anyone else? someone that we are in a relationship with which will teach us what we do and don’t want in our next relationship, if that one doesn’t last. I appreciate you and your courage to share this part of your life. I’ve always been a fan of you….his loss.

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  4. Girl, 25 is a very special year! Quarter life crisis, eh? I am turning 25 in a few months, and I am also starting to realize that I love having friends and family around – perhaps because I’ve been traveling alone for a bit – the little time that I get to spend with people became a lot more precious than it was before! Enjoy your 25 – I’m sure we’re both gonna rock it!!

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