How to Hit on a woman (and succeed)

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I absolutely have to share this story because it was just that hilarious.

Me and my roommate went out for a few drinks the other night and were not the least bit interested in talking to anyone besides each other. We had a beer at one bar before deciding that we were hungry and had to find somewhere to eat (in walking distance) before we might die of starvation.  I recalled this nice bar/restaurant with great burgers & fries—which conveniently was right around the corner. So, off we went.

We ordered loaded burgers and spicy fries as soon as we got there. 😍 AHH, just what we needed. After we ate, this young man in a hippie-type hat approached two guys directly across from us asking if we were all together. They quickly said no, (I think they were actually with each other.) Anyway, we overhear part of the conversation introducing himself as Ryan, Co-owner of the bar/restaurant. He walks away and then comes up to us a few minutes later and says something along these lines “Hi, I’m the Ryan co-owner with that man over there in the glasses.” We each shake his hand and glance over at the man in the glasses and smile. He then says “How was everything, is there anything you wanted to try on the menu?” I pipe up immediately because if you’ve read my blog, you understand my true love is actually food. So I’m like “Mac & cheese!” He’s like ok they’re a little busy, but it will be right out. He gives us two drink chips & walks away.

We talk amongst ourselves about how that was really nice of the owner to come up to everyone and make small talk and give out drink chips. What a great way to keep people coming back we both nodded. I would never think twice about it, but my intuitive roommate saw a few holes in the story. He only talked to the guys across from us, asking if we were together—no one else. Not to judge a book by the cover, but he didn’t look like an owner of a bar/restaurant. Then, out of nowhere a cook from the back comes out and says “Sorry about that guy creeping on you.” Before we could reply, he set down two drink chips in front of us and quickly walked away. Wait, what creep? The owner? Then it was like a light bulb went off and it hit us. We laughed SO hard in disbelief of the lengths “Ryan” was willing to go to just to come up and talk to us. We enjoyed the Mac & cheese and free drinks.

Of course I went up to the other “owner” in the glasses while he was paying his tab and said “Wait, if you’re the owner then why are you paying your bill.” He laughed and said he WAS the owner and that his friend Ryan really liked us. Pretty sure he was not the owner either, but at this point who really knows?!

In conclusion, I think most girls admire boldness and/or ballsy-ness. He left his number, but we left it on the bar. Whoops. Any man who is willing to buy me food gets a gold star. LOL. For another funny, yet true story you have to read this one: Cab Ride With the Man-bun.

 

 

Xoxo

 

-E

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Cab Ride With The Man-Bun

The best cab ride ever. I had the time of my life on green beer Sunday right before St. Paddy’s day. I started drinking at noon if that tells you anything. Like any typical girls night, I was having way too much fun to leave — so I didn’t.

9:00 pm rolls around, all of my friends are already gone, and I’m finally ready to leave. Two cabs are sitting out front, so naturally I approach the first one. He said “$45.” My house is ten minutes away. No wonder Uber is taking over. Me being the sassy girl that I am said “I bet this other cab driver will give me a better deal!” I may be sassy, but I was right. Other cab driver said he’d give me a $10 break. You get vibes from people, and this guy sent good ones. I sat in the front seat with a beer in my hand — apparently I walked out with it, sue me.

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He probably thought I was just drunk and wouldn’t remember our conversation, but to his surprise, I remembered every word.

I asked him what he wanted to do in life and he replied with how much he wanted to be an actor which lead to the topic of martial arts. I’m thinking maybe like a Jackie Chan kind-of-thing. He showed me insane videos with him hitting dummies left and right. Hi-ya! Turns out, he’s somewhat of a ninja. He told me a story about one time this man three times his size put a knife to his neck and tried to rob him.

Say what?

Thats crazy because the cab driver is a pretty big man, too. Little does the robber know that man-bun is a martial arts master disguised as a taxi cab driver.

He was so funny and animated while telling me this story. So he goes on to tell me he is “acting” nervous while grabbing the cash for the robber, making a point to tell me he was actually very calm and that being calm is important. So out of the blue, he grabs the robbers hand so that he drops the knife, elbows him in the face, and then pushes off the dashboard to end up in the back seat with the robber.

He kicks him while opening the door so that he falls out onto the street. He gets back in the drivers seat and the robber is up and on the hood of the cab. So — he did the obvious and drove off  with the bad guy still on top of the car. Just like the movies. Man-bun-1, other guy- 0. I’d watch a movie starring Mr. Osirus, he even has a cool name.

So instead of a silent ride home, we just talked like we knew each other. I adore conversations with strangers. Not a big fan of small talk like “Hey how are you?” and “I’m good thanks.” Its like a never-ending cycle of boringness. I don’t care if it’s customary, Be UNpopular. Get to know each other. Let’s forget pointless polite convos that are easily forgotten. I don’t want to be easily forgotten.  I don’t want to look back and wish I would have done things differently. Find your shine lovies — because when you do, the feeling is like no other. I’m never going back.

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Oh and he carries a wooden sword in his car, you know just in case.

It was a $35 cab ride btw. Totes worth it though.

Had to meet up with him sober for these photos. I’d say it was a success. ✔️ Do something crazy today. Do something UNpopular. Interview below.

1.   Q: What inspires you everyday, what gets you motivated? 

A: I feel needed in the community, that’s why I don’t drink at all. I like to be ready at all times, in case someone needs a ride.

2.    Q: Are you going to try to be an actor?

A: That would be cool, maybe if I had the chance.

3.    Q: What is one thing you wish people would know about you?

A: I wear driving gloves and I think people get the wrong idea. Just because I look tough, people judge me right away, but I’m a really nice person.

 

xo,

-E

Some Days I am Inspired.

Some days I’m inspired. Some days I lose focus and forget what I’m doing or why I’m doing certain things. Sometimes I’m lost, sometimes I’m found, — but everyday I am thankful.

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I spent a lot of wasted time explaining to people why I do what I do, but eventually came to the conclusion that I don’t owe anyone an explanation. If they get it, great! If they don’t, I don’t care. Sometimes people don’t understand me and occasionally I allow it to throw me off my game. I have to remind myself to let my creativity flow. Realize this —not everyone will understand your journey, but as long as you understand it, other people’s feelings about it shouldn’t matter. How could they possibly understand you? They’re not you. You’re you, the only you. People may not always understand, but they will eventually see the fire and passion in your eyes and support you whole heartedly wishing they could find the same. You never know, maybe it will be you who helps them do that.

I search for self-validation, I try not to search for it in others. You’re unstoppable as long as you believe it. Sometimes I have bad days, but I impress myself just by the way I handle it — changing my mood and making things happen despite having a bad day. Yup, I’ll just be over here kicking ass and taking names if you need me.

Sometimes you just have to focus on you, even if you’re the only one in your corner. Once you believe in yourself, people will start to follow that notion. It takes practice and patience to believe in yourself. It also takes hard work, dedication, focus, and most importantly — confidence. Don’t let people lower your standards to meet theirs, let them want to raise their standards to meet yours. Be the one to encourage others and help others believe in themselves when no one else will.

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I had to tone down my negative attitude 95% to get to where I am now. It definitely took some work, but it was well worth it. Something about getting older made me feel like I couldn’t let loose anymore, couldn’t be goofy. Once again — caught trying to live by the rules of society. I was straight-faced 24/7, always taking things to heart and making mountains out of molehills.

Now — sometimes all it takes to get me back to my happy place is being at a coffee shop by myself just reflecting and writing, contemplating my next bad-ass move. A margarita at a nice little bar sometimes works the same. Tequila is my girl.. It used to take someone telling me I’m awesome to bring me back to life — now I’m that person. Sometimes I sit at work and smile to myself because genuinely don’t hate being there anymore. Just because everyone else hates working, doesn’t mean you have to. I feel so lucky to have found myself. I believe some people never do and hopefully with this blog, you will find some inspiration.

 

xo,

-E

Single & 25

I think of everything in life as an experience -The good, the bad & the ugly. Even if things don’t work out the way you had hoped, you still learned something in the end. As I am recently single, it only makes sense to do a relative post. You might think I’d be a little down on myself, after all, single & 25 isn’t the most glamorous of titles. I actually feel hopeful. Its MY year. My year to learn everything I possibly can, do everything I’ve ever wanted to do, and just be myself. While I’m admittedly sad & disappointed that things didn’t work out—still nothing can stop me from achieving my dreams.

For the first time in my life, I realized that I didn’t like being alone. Why though? Ask yourself if you had one day to hang out with yourself, what would you do? Ask me that a year ago & you would undoubtedly get a deer in headlights stare. Ask me that now and you will see my face light up! Wake up, drink coffee, read a book, practice my guitar, go for a run, do some squats, etc. Goodbye to that girl who was afraid to be alone—time to enjoy being single & hanging out with my cat. LOL But seriously Instead of looking for the next partner, I’m working on me. I will not settle this time.

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Things to know about me— 1. I don’t owe anyone anything 2. I am more than capable of being happy alone 3. Dating can be super fun 4. My time is valuable to me and it will not be wasted 5. I will always stick up for myself 6. If you don’t like me, that’s ok— not everyone has good taste. hehe.

I’ve changed so much in the past year, it’s hard to know where to start. So I’ve zeroed in on the conclusion that the next one will find me when I least expect it. It’s how I know I’ve recently grown & changed. My outlook isn’t “I hate all guys.” It’s more like “The next one will be worthy of me and what I have to offer.” If I don’t feel like the most confident and unstoppable girl that I know I am —he’s going to be sidelined.

 

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It is crucial to take the good and not just the bad when exiting a relationship, even though they may not have been the ideal partner. We have all had a few less than ideal partners (eye roll). Everyone is different and has different experiences and personalities. That’s the beauty of life. Although we may not agree with everything our past partners stood for, we still have an opportunity to learn from them. I chose to take a great deal from my ex-boyfriend. I took an AMAZING amount of knowledge and wisdom. In a way, he inspired this blog. So the only words I would have to him are THANK YOU. Try it—thank your exes, even if they don’t deserve it.

There is no need for all of the hostility and drama involved with break ups. FORGIVE. Choose to forgive— not for them, but for yourself and your inner peace. Of course you don’t have to forget, for the past makes you wiser. Being sad is normal, you’re grieving the loss of a former BFF. Stay strong and move on. You rock.

-E

Girl, the world is at your fingertips

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I wish I had known this fact some odd years ago. The world is literally at my fingertips. What I mean by that is this.. The only difference between the people out there killin’ it and myself, is how I decide to spend my free time.

One day I got to thinking about how many resources are available to me. This little guilty feeling crept over me. Oh how much time I have wasted doing nothing for myself, not taking advantage of the world. I wanted desperately at that moment to get out there and just start killing it (translation-maximize my days).

I asked myself one simple question—What are you passionate about? I have no idea. How am I 24 years old and I still don’t know what I’m passionate about? It’s like I don’t even know myself. Wait one minute… when I was young, I absolutely loved reading and writing. Oh snaps, maybe I still do! Here is a thought, remember those resources I was talking about a second ago? Libraries are free, hello. Im like wake up Erin—free knowledge.

 

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So where do I start? Hmmm, well I want to learn about myself, life, etc. I want to know grow as a person.. maybe I even want to be my own boss someday? The possibilities are endless. Ok I admit it, so I don’t exactly know—but I do know I want to learn.

My mind races like this all day every day, from thought to thought lighting fast. My mind always racing full of creative ideas can be super annoying at times, but it has always been this way. Maybe I should start using this to my advantage. I’m going to play my strengths here and capitalize on that. Then I realized I needed to start putting said thoughts down on paper, or in my case—notes on iPhone.

First step, library card.

Step two, check out my first book. Literally so exciting to get out there and start taking steps toward bettering yourself. Insert “nerd” emoji here. I liked reading at one point in my life, but lost the passion along the way. It’s funny how your greatest weakness (mind racing, full of ideas) can be converted into your strength. Hey, it’s all about perspective.

I love that I was able to reconnect with my passions from when I was a kid. Why do we lose some of our hope and excitement when we get older? Who knows. I’m just glad I found it again. All it really took was to really think deep about the title of this blog! The way I see it, everyone has the same opportunity. Use your potential, its yours to own. Now, get out there and start killin’ it, girl.

 

 

-E