How to Hit on a woman (and succeed)

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I absolutely have to share this story because it was just that hilarious.

Me and my roommate went out for a few drinks the other night and were not the least bit interested in talking to anyone besides each other. We had a beer at one bar before deciding that we were hungry and had to find somewhere to eat (in walking distance) before we might die of starvation.  I recalled this nice bar/restaurant with great burgers & fries—which conveniently was right around the corner. So, off we went.

We ordered loaded burgers and spicy fries as soon as we got there. 😍 AHH, just what we needed. After we ate, this young man in a hippie-type hat approached two guys directly across from us asking if we were all together. They quickly said no, (I think they were actually with each other.) Anyway, we overhear part of the conversation introducing himself as Ryan, Co-owner of the bar/restaurant. He walks away and then comes up to us a few minutes later and says something along these lines “Hi, I’m the Ryan co-owner with that man over there in the glasses.” We each shake his hand and glance over at the man in the glasses and smile. He then says “How was everything, is there anything you wanted to try on the menu?” I pipe up immediately because if you’ve read my blog, you understand my true love is actually food. So I’m like “Mac & cheese!” He’s like ok they’re a little busy, but it will be right out. He gives us two drink chips & walks away.

We talk amongst ourselves about how that was really nice of the owner to come up to everyone and make small talk and give out drink chips. What a great way to keep people coming back we both nodded. I would never think twice about it, but my intuitive roommate saw a few holes in the story. He only talked to the guys across from us, asking if we were together—no one else. Not to judge a book by the cover, but he didn’t look like an owner of a bar/restaurant. Then, out of nowhere a cook from the back comes out and says “Sorry about that guy creeping on you.” Before we could reply, he set down two drink chips in front of us and quickly walked away. Wait, what creep? The owner? Then it was like a light bulb went off and it hit us. We laughed SO hard in disbelief of the lengths “Ryan” was willing to go to just to come up and talk to us. We enjoyed the Mac & cheese and free drinks.

Of course I went up to the other “owner” in the glasses while he was paying his tab and said “Wait, if you’re the owner then why are you paying your bill.” He laughed and said he WAS the owner and that his friend Ryan really liked us. Pretty sure he was not the owner either, but at this point who really knows?!

In conclusion, I think most girls admire boldness and/or ballsy-ness. He left his number, but we left it on the bar. Whoops. Any man who is willing to buy me food gets a gold star. LOL. For another funny, yet true story you have to read this one: Cab Ride With the Man-bun.

 

 

Xoxo

 

-E

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13 Things to do on VDAY for a Single lady + Recipe

With Valentine’s day here, one might wonder what there is to do as a single lady. I have come up with a list for you.. You’re welcome.

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  1. Listen to Beyonce` —If you like it then you shoulda put a… Never mind.

  2. Go watch 50 shades—Probably with a friend of some sort, yes it still counts if no one else can actually see this “friend”. It’s weird though because you know everyone is going straight home & you know, let’s Marvin Gaye and get it on (awk).

  3. Bake goods all day—like heart-shaped cookies and other red, vibrant desserts. Everyone likes desserts, so that’s an easy win (If you don’t, I don’t think I need your negativity in my life). Trifle recipe below.

  4. Go on a date—yolo. There’s Tinder, and like this thing where you actually can introduce yourself to people face-to-face. Mind-blowing, right?

  5. Hang out with other single friends—If these people even exist.

  6. Drive without a destination in mind—All by Yoseeeelf (Insert song here).

  7. Whine & chill—’Nuff said

  8. Sleep all day, wake up on FEB 15th—Cross that off the bucket list.

  9. Hang with your pet—If you don’t have one, refer to #10.

  10. Go buy a pet

  11. Have a VDAY party for girls only—Including food, dessert, and obviously chick flicks. No, that doesn’t make you a loser.. (ok maybe a little, but I’m not judging you).

  12. Pamper yourself with an at-home spa day or if the bank account agrees, go to a spa—look good, feel good.

  13. Do something spontaneous. Spontaneity is contagious. Ex: Travel to a nearby city and explore. Loserville is my absolute fave.

     

I joke a lot, but seriously there is nothing wrong with being single on V-day. Don’t let this amazing day make you feel unworthy. Remember, no one else is like you. You’re a rockstar. Choose to make today your day! Remember: Girl, the world is at your fingertips, you just have to believe it.

Recipe Time. 👇🏼

The other day my mom called me to tell me that I could open the package she sent me for Valentines Day because she was not available to FaceTime on Valentines Day because of things going on that day (I was supposed to wait until VDAY to open).

eeeek, what did I get?! She said I have to open the card first I’m like “what card?!” “What if it’s not here yet?!” She said “Then you’ll have to wait!” So I ran to check the mail and I see a red card—thank baby Jesus, hallelujurr. So we FaceTime and I open my card which consists of a single recipe card for a trifle dessert. Yes please. I precede to open the package and see a glass trifle bowl! What a thoughtful and amazing gift! I have never actually made a trifle before, but no worries! It was not-so-complicated and it tasted even better than it looked. I made sure to mention she gave me the perfect dessert to blog about. Thank you mom.

Ingredients:

1/4 plus 2/3 Cup sugar

1/4 Cup Fresh lemon juice

1/4 tsp. Almond extract

1 Angel food cake, cut into 1-inch pieces

1 Pound cream cheese (at room temp.)

2 Cups heavy cream

1/4 Cup water

2 Pints Strawberries

Handful raspberries to top

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Directions:

Heat 1/4 c sugar, lemon juice, and 1/4c water in saucepan over medium-high. Heat, stirring, until the sugar dissolves. Remove from heat and stir in almond extract. Dip 1-inch angel food cake pieces in the syrup and start layering in trifle bowl. Beat the remaining 2/3c sugar and cream cheese with a mixer until smooth and light. Add heavy cream and mix until consistency of whipped cream. Layer cake cubes, followed by strawberries, and lastly the cream cheese mixture. Repeat layering of cake, strawberries, and then cream cheese mixture. Cover and refrigerate.

 

-E

Single & 25

I think of everything in life as an experience -The good, the bad & the ugly. Even if things don’t work out the way you had hoped, you still learned something in the end. As I am recently single, it only makes sense to do a relative post. You might think I’d be a little down on myself, after all, single & 25 isn’t the most glamorous of titles. I actually feel hopeful. Its MY year. My year to learn everything I possibly can, do everything I’ve ever wanted to do, and just be myself. While I’m admittedly sad & disappointed that things didn’t work out—still nothing can stop me from achieving my dreams.

For the first time in my life, I realized that I didn’t like being alone. Why though? Ask yourself if you had one day to hang out with yourself, what would you do? Ask me that a year ago & you would undoubtedly get a deer in headlights stare. Ask me that now and you will see my face light up! Wake up, drink coffee, read a book, practice my guitar, go for a run, do some squats, etc. Goodbye to that girl who was afraid to be alone—time to enjoy being single & hanging out with my cat. LOL But seriously Instead of looking for the next partner, I’m working on me. I will not settle this time.

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Things to know about me— 1. I don’t owe anyone anything 2. I am more than capable of being happy alone 3. Dating can be super fun 4. My time is valuable to me and it will not be wasted 5. I will always stick up for myself 6. If you don’t like me, that’s ok— not everyone has good taste. hehe.

I’ve changed so much in the past year, it’s hard to know where to start. So I’ve zeroed in on the conclusion that the next one will find me when I least expect it. It’s how I know I’ve recently grown & changed. My outlook isn’t “I hate all guys.” It’s more like “The next one will be worthy of me and what I have to offer.” If I don’t feel like the most confident and unstoppable girl that I know I am —he’s going to be sidelined.

 

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It is crucial to take the good and not just the bad when exiting a relationship, even though they may not have been the ideal partner. We have all had a few less than ideal partners (eye roll). Everyone is different and has different experiences and personalities. That’s the beauty of life. Although we may not agree with everything our past partners stood for, we still have an opportunity to learn from them. I chose to take a great deal from my ex-boyfriend. I took an AMAZING amount of knowledge and wisdom. In a way, he inspired this blog. So the only words I would have to him are THANK YOU. Try it—thank your exes, even if they don’t deserve it.

There is no need for all of the hostility and drama involved with break ups. FORGIVE. Choose to forgive— not for them, but for yourself and your inner peace. Of course you don’t have to forget, for the past makes you wiser. Being sad is normal, you’re grieving the loss of a former BFF. Stay strong and move on. You rock.

-E